Even if you don’t want your 5-year-old to read this, releasing the lies you’ve lived by is life changing. For those of us who grew up with Christmas and all of its festive trappings, we can learn a lot by releasing untruths just like we did when we figured out that Santa was fabricated. A boy […]
Lose Your Head If someone snuck into your house tonight and robbed you of your prize possessions, you wouldn’t like it would you? Yet, this is exactly what you tolerate when your mind runs your life. It sneaks in and steals your peace and presence. It tells you stories about what it thinks has happened, […]
Access The Beauty I often forget I’m a human being. I forget to stop. To stop rushing away into some future moment or improved version of myself. In spending the holidays with Phoebe, my 18-month old granddaughter, she helped me return to the simplicity and the magnificence of who I am, who we all are. […]
This is one of the most liberating beliefs I’ve ever come across: We can fix what we muck up. While initially, this doesn’t seem terribly profound; it is, in fact, one of the most useful understandings for creating and sustaining a fulfilled life. Until I deeply understood this concept, I was often too afraid to […]
Navigating Social Media Recently, the number of questions I’ve received from my younger clients asking how they can manage their relationships with social media in healthier ways has surprised me. Not that the questions aren’t relevant but just because of their source. Most teens and young adults today have grown up online and feel as […]
Tolerance We live in divisive times. Despite our similarities, we are focused on our differences, especially when we perceive them to be a matter of life or death or to threaten our way of life in some way. A return to what we have in common is needed now more than ever – a return […]
Pulled Between Two Branches In rural Alaska where I grew up, many people cure animal hides, particularly caribou and moose. Placed in the sun and the wind, the hides hang for weeks over summer. There to endure and to be made into something stronger and more malleable. Made useful for many things after being lashed for […]
Ride the Wave I love looking at the sea. I especially love watching surfers. Sometimes they’re met with one wave after another. Sometimes they wait. But even as they wait, they’re preparing for the next one to arrive. They know another one will come at some point; they just don’t know when it will start […]
Criticism is sulfuric acid for love. After 40+ years of conducting research on what makes relationships last, Dr. John Gottman has this to say about it. Personally, I like to say that criticism is a weapon that we use against the people we love the most. Urban Family founder, Shantel Patu, describes the abuse perpetrated by a […]
Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. French Philosopher Simone Weil gave us this understanding in Gravity and Grace, published posthumously in 1952. She also went on to say that when we practice paying attention to even the smallest and most minute aspects of our lives, we reap the deepest rewards of our humanity. Weil […]
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