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The Social Media Muse

Navigating Social Media Recently, the number of questions I’ve received from my younger clients asking how they can manage their relationships with social media in healthier ways has surprised me. Not that the questions aren’t relevant but just because of their source. Most teens and young adults today have grown up online and feel as […]

Radical Acceptance

Families Are Chaotic The perfect family does not exist: you need to stop trying to make yours perfect. Instead, we need to accept our families – and the individuals who make it up – just the way it is even when we know it could be better. Families are perpetrators of some of the messiest […]

Living “At-Cause”

How in charge are you? A funny question I know. Most people think they are. Yet, when we look closely at our responses to what happens to us sometimes the reality is very different from the thought. When a co-worker criticises you, for example, do you stop and reflect on it and decide whether or […]

Digital Body Language

Your body language is always saying something. An earlier post discussed the importance of body language in person; this one looks at it during video conferences. We spend a lot of time in meetings and many of them, thanks to companies like Zoom, and Google Hangouts, are held digitally, offering richer ways to communicate. And we’ve […]

Do You Speak Body Language?

It didn’t make sense. A week ago Tayla’s supervisor seemed positive about her proposal. Sure, he hadn’t made much eye contact and looked distracted. But she’d just put that down to him being busy because he’d used the words “the project will probably get the go-ahead.” So when he turned it down, Tayla was shocked. If […]

Don’t hold onto clouds

Changing Depression We are never the same person we were yesterday. Even if we’re with the same people, eat the same foods, and watch the same TV shows, we’re always changing. Our feelings are not what we felt yesterday, even if they seem the same. Every cell is constantly renewing itself. Every experience is filtered […]

Are You Sleep Running Through Life?

If you’re prioritising the needs of others over your own, then the answer is yes.  After my husband died following a long battle with chronic depression, I “woke up” and realised that I didn’t even know what I wanted for breakfast, let alone who I was or what made me happy. For so long all […]

A Body Grateful

A sunset.  A hug.  A helping hand. Have you ever stopped and really thought about what it feels like when you’re grateful for these or anything else for that matter? Have you ever noticed how it makes your body feel? Let’s try it now. Close your eyes and imagine someone you feel especially grateful for […]

“I Just Stopped By To Stir Your Soul”

An amazing woman In 1994, having grown up in South Central LA, Lisa Nichols was “broke and broken.” With less than $12 in her bank account, she was a single mom who had barely had enough money to buy nappies for her baby son. Without anything to her name, the odds of getting out of poverty […]